The relationship is struggling, but only one of the partners is ready to resolve things
Rachel reached out initially with the intention of working together with her husband Tom to resolve the challenges that they had been experiencing.
Although Tom joined the initial call with Matt & Rebeca he decided that due to the stresses that he was under, he wasn’t ready to work on the relationship.
While Rachel didn’t try to convince Tom, she was resolved that at least for her peace of mind, she needed to get to the bottom of what was happening and the things that made her feel uncomfortable in the relationship.
Even though Tom didn’t join the process, Rachel came to understand exactly how they had got to where they were in the relationship, including some ways that she herself had unconsciously caused some of the problems without realising. In this case, Rachel decided that she deserved a different kind of partner that would value her, as much as she now valued herself.