Getting to grips with our hidden sabotaging patterns

In our journey towards personal growth and success, we often encounter roadblocks. Despite our best efforts, we find ourselves stuck in self-destructive patterns that can hinder our progress in life. These sabotaging patterns are part of our subconscious minds, influencing our behaviour and choices without our awareness. 


With a deeper understanding of our self and our mind, we can become more aware of how and when these behaviours are showing up in our lives.


Understanding hidden sabotaging patterns


Hidden sabotaging patterns are deeply ingrained habits or beliefs that we might not consciously recognize. These patterns often stem from past experiences, childhood conditioning, or negative self-talk. They act as self-imposed barriers, preventing us from achieving our true potential.

5 strategies to help you overcome self-sabotaging patterns



Mindfulness is about being present in the moment. By practising mindfulness, we can observe our thoughts, emotions, and actions and form a closer connection between our conscious and subconscious mind. This self-awareness enables us to identify patterns that have been holding us back. When we recognize the trigger points for self-sabotage, we can consciously choose to respond differently, breaking free from these patterns.

Working on self-affirmation

Negative self-talk develops self-sabotaging patterns by reinforcing feelings of unworthiness. Challenge these negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. By repeating positive statements about ourselves, we can rewire our brains and foster a more confident and empowered mindset.

Embrace vulnerability

Many of us fear vulnerability because it makes us feel exposed and susceptible to judgement. However, acknowledging our vulnerabilities can be liberating. It helps us confront and release emotional baggage, which might be the root cause of our self-sabotaging behaviour. Opening up to trusted friends, family, or a therapist creates a safe space for healing and growth.


Set achievable goals

Setting big goals can be overwhelming, leading to procrastination or avoidance. To overcome this, break down your larger goals into smaller, achievable tasks. Celebrating even small milestones will make you feel proud, reinforcing positive behaviour and gradually weakening the grip of sabotaging patterns.


Uncovering hidden sabotaging patterns can have a hugely positive effect on your personal development and success. To hear more about this head over to our recent podcast on discovering our hidden sabotaging patterns where guest host Adelaide Goodeve discusses neural pathways that can help you activate and strengthen your desired thoughts, feelings, behaviours and responses.


Adelaide Goodeve is a brain coach who works with clients to show up consistently at their best in their lives both professionally and personally. She’s been on a journey of recovery and growth from hitting rock bottom with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and building herself up to create an amazing life. Learn more about her story and how she has helped thousands of individuals on her website.