Healing from the loss of a partner

Losing anyone close to you is one of the hardest parts of life and losing a partner can feel insurmountable. The journey of healing can at first, seem impossible. While the grieving process is deeply personal and unique to each individual, there are universal aspects to it that can provide comfort and guidance. In this blog, we’ll explore the journey of healing from the loss of a partner and offer insights into healing.

Grief is a natural response to loss, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It’s essential to allow yourself to feel and express your emotions. You may experience a wide range of feelings, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even moments of relief. Remember that there is no set timeline for grief, and healing is not a linear process.

Making it through grief

During times of grief, it’s important to lean on your support system. Friends and family can provide emotional support, and sometimes, professional counselling can be immensely helpful in navigating the complexities of grief. Many people find comfort in support groups, sharing your thoughts and feelings with others who have experienced a similar loss can help you feel less alone in your journey.

Taking care of yourself is crucial during a time of grief. Prioritize self-care, which may include regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep. Be kind and patient with yourself, acknowledging that healing is a slow and non-linear process. You will have good days and bad days, and that’s okay.

Honouring the memory of your partner can help with accepting that they are no longer here whilst appreciating the life they did live. Create a memorial space or keep a memory box with mementos that remind you of your loved one. Sharing stories and anecdotes about your partner with others can also help keep their memory alive. These activities can provide a sense of connection even in their absence.

Rediscover yourself

When healing from the loss of a partner, it’s essential to set realistic goals for yourself. Small, achievable steps can help you regain a sense of control and accomplishment. These goals can be as simple as going for a walk, reading a book, or reconnecting with an old friend.

The loss of a partner can leave you questioning your identity and purpose. It’s an opportunity to rediscover who you are, apart from your role as a partner. This process can be empowering, as it allows you to explore your interests, passions, and ambitions that may have been put on hold.

Many people who have experienced profound loss eventually find a sense of meaning or purpose in their grief. It can lead to personal growth and transformation. You might consider volunteering, joining a support group, or pursuing a cause that’s meaningful to you as a way to honour your partner’s memory.

Healing from the loss of a partner is a long, painful journey, and it is unique for each individual. There is no set timeline, and the pain may never fully disappear, but it can become more manageable with time and self-compassion. Remember that it’s okay to grieve, seek support, and preserve memories as you rediscover your sense of self. In time, your healing journey can lead to personal growth and renewed purpose.

Michelle’s story

Michelle is a two-time international best-selling author on love, personal, and professional relationships who has overcome one of the biggest challenges, the death of her long term partner.

In our recent podcast Michelle gave Rebeca some insight into how we can pick ourselves up and move on in the most positive way after a major life event.

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