Embrace quality time with your partner

We see celebrities like David and Victoria Beckham whisking away to holiday homes in Miami or the Maldives, holidays many of us could only wish to experience. Does this lead you to wonder, would my relationship be better if I could spend more quality time with my partner like this, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life even for just 1 week?

Our recent survey of over 1000 respondents on our website found that over 85% of couples do not regularly spend time with their partner! Quality time is one of the most important aspects of a healthy long-term relationship. If you are struggling to spend time with your partner remember, extravagant holidays aren’t the only way to have fun with the person you love. 

 In this article, we will discuss the importance of quality time, what you can do together and how you can maintain a balance in your relationship.

What really is quality time?

Quality time is widely considered as time spent together whilst giving the other person your full attention. But this doesn’t always have to be the definition of “quality time” for your relationship. Some couples are content watching a movie together or cooking their favorite meal and may consider this their quality time. Others may prefer a weekly date night, where they can give each other their undivided attention whilst some may be more outgoing and enjoy taking part in fun activities. To maintain a healthy relationship it is important to consider your partner’s definition of quality time and try to come to a compromise that works for both partners if your definitions are different.

So why is quality time so important?

Quality time serves as a powerful tool for building and strengthening relationships, developing emotional connections, and promoting overall well-being. Whether it’s spending uninterrupted moments with loved ones or engaging in self-care activities, quality time has a host of positive effects. Firstly, it enhances communication and deepens understanding between individuals. By actively listening and sharing thoughts and experiences, people can forge bonds built on trust, empathy, and mutual respect. Additionally, quality time allows us to recharge and rejuvenate. Taking a break from the demands of daily life and engaging in activities we enjoy can reduce stress, increase happiness, and improve mental health. Moreover, quality time cultivates a sense of belonging and support within relationships, making individuals feel valued and loved. By prioritizing quality time, we invest in our relationships and ourselves, leading to happier, more fulfilling lives.

What will happen if we don’t spend quality time together?

Lack of quality time can have detrimental effects on relationships and personal well-being. When we neglect to spend meaningful moments together, it can result in feelings of disconnection, loneliness, and even resentment. Without quality time, relationships can become strained as communication declines, and emotional intimacy suffers. The absence of shared experiences and genuine conversations can lead to misunderstandings, a lack of support, and a weakening of the bond between individuals. Not dedicating time to oneself can also have negative consequences. Neglecting self-care and personal reflection can result in increased stress, burnout, and a loss of self. In our busy world, it is crucial to recognize the importance of quality time and prioritize it to maintain healthy relationships and nurture our own well-being. Learn more about how feelings regarding the quality time we spend together can change over time and we examined that in our previous blog #thethreemonthrule.

Tips and tricks

Finding the time to spend time with your partner can be hard so we are going to let you in on some tips to maintain a fun and lively lifestyle with your partner.

Schedule it

Treat quality time as a non-negotiable appointment in your calendar. Set a specific day and time each week or month dedicated to spending time with your partner.

Communicate and align schedules

Discuss your respective schedules and find common times that work for both of you. Look for pockets of free time, even if they are short, and make the most of them.

Cut down on distractions 

Identify activities or habits that consume excessive time and energy, such as screen time or overcommitting to non-essential obligations. Minimize these distractions to create more opportunities for quality time.

Make the most of everyday moments

Quality time doesn’t always require grand gestures or extensive planning. Find ways to connect during everyday activities, such as cooking together, taking a walk, or even sharing a meal. Focus on being present and engaged during these moments.

Combine activities

Look for opportunities to combine quality time with other tasks. For example, you can exercise together, run errands as a team, or listen to audiobooks or podcasts during a commute.

Set boundaries

Establish boundaries with work or other commitments that may encroach on your quality time. Learn to say no to non-essential tasks or delegate responsibilities to create space for your relationship.

Prioritize self-care

Taking care of yourself is crucial for nurturing your relationship. When you prioritize self-care, you are more likely to bring your best self into the relationship and have the energy and enthusiasm to spend quality time with your partner.


Do you feel like you no longer enjoy spending time with your partner? Try some fun new activities together and ensure you are communicating openly! 


Still feeling a lack of connection? Take our unique clarity Scorecard to see what might be the issue, or get in contact with Aligned with Love today and let’s see how we can help.