Have things happened in your relationship that have impacted the level of trust between you both? Have these lingered meaning that you no longer know where you stand, and making it difficult to plan or imagine a life together? Maybe you want to move on but you can’t stand the idea of just ‘brushing it under the carpet’, and want to get to the bottom of things?
Do you ever find yourselves going around in circles talking about the same things again and again, but always coming back to the same frustration or dead end? When you do talk about things, does it end up being damaging to the relationship when things may be said in anger that leave a painful mark? Or perhaps you just walk on eggshells avoiding the difficult subject altogether?
Do you ever sense that the relationship takes away your freedom and that rather than becoming more in the relationship you are limited or constrained in some way? Does your partner get upset with you when you say certain things or act in certain ways, and that you are not able to make choices or to live your life how you want?
Do you ever wonder what it would take for the relationship to really work in the long term, and whether it’s even viable in the way that it currently is? What are the costs that you are bearing of tolerating an average (or worse) relationship - and is that a cost you are willing to live with? Or maybe you’ve already made a decision to separate and you want to make sense of what happened so that you can move on and stay on good terms. Either way, we can help!
Do you sense that you’re there in body but not fully present together emotionally, like you are going through the motions? Do you sometimes feel lonely and wonder why you are even in a relationship if it’s not emotionally nourishing? How important is it for you to re-discover that emotional connection from times when you’ve felt close like best friends?
Do you feel more like flatmates living together but lacking the spark and passion that would make it feel like a proper relationship? Perhaps the dynamic can feel like one of you is being parented or looked after by the other making intimacy uncomfortable? How important is it to find that passion that draws you together and makes the relationship work in the long term?