Factors That Can Put Your Relationship into a Negative Place

In this blog article we are going to go over the most common factors that often lead to couples struggling in their relationship.

Do your relationships always seem to end in the worst way? Is your current relationship struggling?

In this blog article we are going to go over the most common factors that often lead to couples struggling in their relationship.

While all relationships encounter challenges, recognizing and addressing the factors that can lead to negativity is crucial for maintaining a healthy and thriving partnership. By understanding these issues, you can move towards improving your behaviours and developing a healthier mindset.


We all know how important communication is in all aspects of life. When communication breaks down or becomes ineffective, misunderstandings and conflicts can arise. Partners may start feeling unheard or misunderstood, leading to frustration and resentment. Practise active listening, express your feelings clearly and openly, and encourage your partner to do the same. Seek to understand rather than to be understood.

Lack of Trust

Trust is vital in every relationship, and when it’s broken, it can be challenging to rebuild. Issues like lying, infidelity, or broken promises can break down trust and create a negative atmosphere in the relationship. Rebuilding trust can work but it does take time, patience, and consistent efforts. It is essential for both partners to be transparent, honest, and accountable for their actions.

Unresolved Conflicts

Conflicts are natural in any relationship, but both you and your partner have to know how to deal with them together. Many couples choose to ignore problems until they build up, creating a much bigger issue. Sweeping issues under the rug only allows resentment to build over time. Instead, face conflicts head-on and work together to find solutions without judgement or malice. Engaging in calm and respectful discussions can help maintain a positive atmosphere and prevent negative emotions from going unheard.

Lack of Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is the deep connection and bond that partners share. Losing emotional intimacy is common in long-term relationships when stress gets high, individuals can feel needy or embarrassed discussing this topic. This creates a feeling of  disconnect, leading to loneliness and emotional distancing. To bring back emotional intimacy, make time for each other, engage in activities that strengthen your connection, and be vulnerable by expressing your feelings and needs. 

Imbalance in Responsibilities

In any relationship, there are shared responsibilities. When one partner consistently carries a disproportionate burden, it can lead to resentment and feelings of being taken for granted. To avoid this, communicate openly about the division of responsibilities and find ways to distribute them fairly. Remember that teamwork is vital in a healthy partnership.

Lack of Appreciation and Affection

Regularly expressing appreciation and affection is crucial for nurturing a positive relationship. Neglecting to acknowledge your partner’s efforts or to show affection can make them feel unloved and undervalued. Make it a habit to express appreciation, compliment each other, and engage in physical affections to maintain a loving and positive dynamic.

External Stressors

External stressors like work pressure, financial difficulties, or family issues can place strain on a relationship. When partners face overwhelming stress, they might unintentionally take it out on each other, leading to increased tensions and negativity. External stress can quickly develop into a relationship that carries out all of the above behaviours and a partner may struggle to understand the change in their partner without adequate communication. It is essential to recognize external stressors and find healthy coping mechanisms together, such as practising mindfulness, seeking professional support, or engaging in stress-relieving activities.

Turning negative behaviours into positive ones

Jimmie Stephens is a sought after author, speaker, relationship coach and founder of The School of Marriage and Relationship. In our recent podcast Jimmie made a guest appearance to discuss what we can do to shift ourselves from that negative place and back to a more positive one. To find out how you can work on these 7 areas as well as many other aspects of yourself and your relationship get in contact with Jimmie through his website.

Remember that a healthy relationship requires continuous effort, understanding, and support from both partners to thrive and grow over time.