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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

From Relationship CLASH to CLARITY in 5 Simple Steps

When your relationship isn't working the way you want it to, it can be difficult to know what to do next.

Do we keep trying?

Can things really change?

Are we going through a difficult phase — or is this relationship no longer right for me?

Should I Stay or Should I Go? is designed to help you step away from the confusion, understand what's really happening in your relationship and start finding greater clarity about what comes next.

Whether you're struggling, questioning your future together or simply want to create an even stronger relationship, this book gives you practical ways to look differently at your relationship and the part you can play in changing it.

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Is This Book for You?

Relationships rarely fit neatly into "good" or "bad".

Sometimes you still love each other, but something has changed.

Sometimes the same arguments keep happening.

Sometimes you've become disconnected and can't remember when things started to feel different.

And sometimes things are actually going well — but you both know your relationship could be even better.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? is for anyone wanting to re-evaluate, better understand or improve an intimate relationship.

Your Relationship Is Struggling

Arguments, communication problems or emotional distance have started to become part of everyday life and you want to understand whether things can change.

You're Questioning Whether to Stay

You're caught between wanting the relationship to work and wondering whether walking away might ultimately be the right decision.

You Want Something Better

Things aren't necessarily "bad", but you know there is more connection, intimacy and happiness available to you both.

Finally Start Making Sense of Your Relationship

When you're inside a relationship problem, it can be incredibly difficult to see it clearly.

You might focus on what your partner needs to change.

They might believe you're the problem.

You may both keep having different versions of the same argument without ever resolving what's really underneath it.

This book is designed to help you take a different view.

You'll begin exploring the beliefs, behaviours and relationship patterns that may be contributing to what's happening — and the practical changes that can help move you from CLASH towards CLARITY.

Because finding clarity isn't simply about deciding whether to stay or leave.

It's about understanding your relationship well enough to make that decision from a much stronger place.

You Don't Have to Wait for Your Partner to Start

If you're both ready to work on your relationship, reading the book together can open up conversations and help you understand the situation from different perspectives.

But what if your partner isn't ready?

You can still start.

If communication between you has become difficult or you've chosen to read the book by yourself, you'll be encouraged to look at the changes you can make personally rather than waiting for someone else to change first.

That may help create a shift within the relationship.

It may also help you recognise when you've done everything you reasonably can and need to consider a different future.

Either way, the goal is clarity.

From Relationship CLASH to CLARITY

Should I Stay or Should I Go? takes you through a practical five-step journey designed to help you make better sense of your relationship.

Rather than giving you a simplistic answer to the question "Should I stay or should I go?", it helps you look more deeply at:

What is actually happening in your relationship
The beliefs you hold about how relationships "should" work
The patterns you and your partner may have created
What is within your control
What can realistically change
What a great relationship looks like for you
Whether the relationship you're in can become that relationship

The aim isn't to tell you what decision to make.

It's to help you become clearer and more confident in making it yourself.

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"Shouldn't Relationships Just Be 'Easy'?"

One of the biggest misconceptions we encounter when working with couples and individuals is the belief that the "right" relationship should simply be easy.

But real relationships are more complicated than that.

In this chapter, Matt explores some of the beliefs and expectations we bring into our relationships and how they can affect the way we interpret difficulties when they appear.

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An Amazon Top 10 Bestseller

Should I Stay or Should I Go? reached the Amazon Top 10 and readers have already shared how the book has helped them look differently at their relationships.

"Great relationship tools and the inspiration to use them..."

"The author set the stage for talking about relationships with an overview of how things go bad and the beliefs we may carry around that, such as, 'If we talk about it, it will only get worse.'"

Scott McGreggor — Amazon Review

"Great knowledge that will help my relationship big time..."

"This book has definitely given me a few more tools in my tool box for my relationship!"

Rhys Thomas — Amazon Review

"Book that will help you to decide!"

"Its a book that looks at relationship from inside. Its a practical book that will help you to gain a clarity if you have a dylemma about whether you should leave your current patner or perhabs you should stay... Higly recommended!!"

Annia D. — Amazon Review

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Meet the Author

Matt Albiges

Matt works alongside his wife Rebeca through Aligned With Love, helping couples and individuals better understand their relationships and create meaningful change.

Their work has given Matt years of experience seeing the patterns that can leave people feeling disconnected, stuck or unsure about the future of their relationship.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? brings those lessons together into an accessible framework designed to help more people move from relationship CLASH to CLARITY.

Matt's aim isn't to convince everyone to stay together.

Nor is it to tell people to leave.

It's to help people understand their relationship clearly enough to make better decisions about what comes next.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is this only for relationships that are struggling?

No.

If things aren't working as well as you'd like, the book can help you identify steps that may help get the relationship back on track.

But if things are already going well, it can also help you think about how you could take your relationship to another level.

Do we have to read the book together?

No.

If you read it together, you'll have the opportunity to explore what's happening from different perspectives.

However, if communication is currently difficult or your partner isn't ready to work on things, you can also read the book alone and begin looking at the changes you can make yourself.

I'm single. Will the book still be useful?

Yes.

The book can help you make sense of relationships you've experienced in the past and think more clearly about what you want a great relationship to look like in the future.

What if the book makes me realise we need more help?

That's completely fine.

A book can give you insight and help you understand your situation, but sometimes personalised support is needed to create deeper change.

Aligned With Love works directly with couples and individuals who want support improving or gaining clarity about their relationships.

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Can I listen instead of reading?

Yes.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? is also available as an audiobook through Audible.

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Continue the Conversation

Listen to The Relationship Breakthrough Show

The book is only one way to explore these ideas.

Join Matt and Rebeca on The Relationship Breakthrough Show for conversations about communication, intimacy, conflict, emotional connection, relationship patterns, separation, personal growth and what really helps relationships thrive.

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How Healthy Is Your Relationship Right Now?

Sometimes you know something isn't quite right, but putting your finger on exactly what needs attention is difficult.

The Relationship CLARITY Scorecard can help you take a closer look at where your relationship is today and identify the areas that may need more attention.

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You Don't Need to Have All the Answers Today

Asking yourself "Should I stay or should I go?" can feel like one enormous decision.

Start by asking a different question:

What's really happening in my relationship?

Understanding that can change everything.

Start your journey from relationship CLASH to CLARITY with Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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Rating

82 reviews

Hannah

07/08/2023

Everyone should see Rebecca & Matt. They give you amazing tools to work through everyday relationships difficulties. After being in a 20 year relationship we were able quite quickly to make a lot of changes to improve ourselves personally which had a huge positive impact on our relationship. We are not at the end of our program yet but I am already so happy with where I am. Cannot recommended AWL enough! Everyone should go to them and get given the tools to becoming a better version of you!

Marta Ragu

08/06/2023

Wonderful people, who helped us with communication problems, setting boundaries, meeting our individual needs and improving the relationship we have with each other as well as with family, friends, coworkers… etc. We did 7 months course which involved 3 sessions a month. We found this very powerful and there was a lot of extra support and resources. Rebeca organises empowering events for ladies, and Matt mountain walks for men. I highly recommend this, not only for couples, but for anyone who wants to work on themselves.

Nick

17/08/2023

We have only positives to express from our experience with Aligned with Love. From our initial phone consultation to the discussion of the service provided everything has been easy to follow with guidance throughout. Matt and Rebeca are always happy to help and try there best to arrange things to be convenient for you. Would definitely recommend.

M H

14/06/2023

We recently finished the programme with Matt and Rebeca and cannot express enough how much it has transformed our relationship for the better! We first approached Matt and Rebeca after hitting a wall; feeling our relationship had been stuck in this negative loop with no way forward. Their approach to support us, both as a couple and separately through group work and individual sessions, allowed us to break out of the cycle and work out that path forward together with a structure we could follow and techniques to practice. Their help allowed me to better understand myself, dealing with issues in a healthy way and the importance of showing up to the relationship as my best self. The sessions with Matt were enlightening and very supportive, and also the group walking trips he runs and podcasts they’ve created were really beneficial, creating a strong feeling of having a support system to tap-into aswell as invaluable life-coaching that extends beyond the relationship. We’ve not-only found clarity in our relationship but also in the importance of working to bring our ‘best-self’, along with a new ‘tool box’ of communication techniques to work together through any issue and understand each other’s viewpoint. Cannot recommend enough!

Ben Pycroft

15/03/2023

My girlfriend and I were stuck in a constant loop of one week we were good and the other we'd be at eachothers throats over menial things. My girlfriend sought help for our relationship and found AWL. I've honestly couldn't have asked for better people than Matt and Rebeca to guide us on our way to a better relationship. From the get go they were very welcoming and made us both feel extremely comfortable. We've only an been with AWL for just over a month now and we were seeing progress in our relationship within a couple of weeks. Matt and Rebeca have helped my partner and I understand each other better and have opened up a whole new avenue of communication for us both to better resolve issues and understand how we're both feeling. I can't recommend AWL enough to anyone who finds themselves in a constant loop. They really do help! Thank you both for helping us on our journey, even though we have a long way to go still. I only see a better future and a better relationship for my partner and I.

Laura

25/05/2023

The support that both myself and my partner have received during the Aligned with Love Relationship support has been life changing. It has taken me such a long time to write this review as I don’t think I can find the words to do it justice as to how much benefit it has been. When we first met Matt and Rebeca we were at breaking point but after their 6 month course that couldn’t be further from our new reality. Matt and Rebeca are completely honest with you all the way through the programme - but what you can’t quite appreciate or put a price on is how committed they are and the support they give every step of the way. Whether that is through a WhatsApp message or voice note to coach you through a difficult situation, one-to-one touch base calls, reading lists, podcasts, in person events, individual and group counselling sessions and even tailored meditations to help work on specific issues. For me, I cannot sing Rebeca’s praises enough or thank her for showing me how to find and be my best self. She had an ability to pick me up when I was at my lowest and teach me that it’s ok to do nothing sometimes! With her I have learnt more about myself than I thought possible and it’s not only helped the relationship with my partner, but with family, friends and even work too! She is an incredible compassionate individual who is very dedicated to her vocation and cares about helping people. If you are willing to put in the work this is an amazing opportunity to become your best self; as this is the healthiest thing for any relationship to thrive.

Carl Allam

22/02/2023

Myself and my wife got in touch with Matt and Rebeca 6 months ago when our relationship had reached breaking point and an all time low after 3 years of deteriorating. Along the way I always felt we needed to resolve our problems and issues ourselves and that no one else could understand our situation or help us...how wrong I was. We met Matt and Rebeca face to face and where put at ease straight away and within the first hour already knew things where going to get better. Their understanding of relationships, people and different situations helped them show us/me it wasn't about them fixing our situation but giving us the tools, understanding and belief to see how we had got to this point and how to move forward together and rebuild our relationship, communication and Love. We are now well on our road to recovery and to better happier times together as a family. We have a long way to go but together with the belief and understanding we have been given we will get there. Thankyou Matt and Rebeca for all your help and guidance I'm so glad we found you both and may you both be blessed for all the people you help.

Michelle An

08/02/2023

Our relationship was in a "loop of doom" and I was so exhausted of it, ready to get out of it. But I knew that in the core of me and my partner's being, we had the same values and that we were always good just stuck in a loop. So I needed to try and find help that would not put any biases for me and my partner. I am glad to find Matt and Rebeca. They have helped us realise what we've been doing wrong and what would make it work for the better. For the first time I was seeing significant things about my relationship and my partner with a different and clearer pair of glasses! Nothing changes instantaneously but with AWL trusting and enduring the process to an effective relationships is definitely better and sweet!

Jade Rees

10/02/2023

I initially hoped to complete the relationship therapy as part of a couple. However, I decided after the breakdown of a long marriage to complete it on my own. It was the best decision, I could have made. It gave me the tools to navigate a very challenging time in a proactive and positive manner. From the initial phone call with Matt and the hypnotherapy sessions with Rebecca. They both made put me at ease and made me feel safe. I now feel confident, content and genuinely excited for the future.

Sarah Jane Jones

21/01/2023

I read the reviews before deciding to try Aligned with Love, they were really positive and seemed too good to be true to be honest! I'd tried relationship counselling previously and didn't find it helpful at all, in fact it made me feel worse so i wasn't confident this would be for me; but with our relationship at breaking point, I decided to give it a go. Meeting Matt and Rebecca was probably the best thing that could have happened to our relationship. We are very early on in the programme but I can already see a huge difference in our relationship and how we communicate. Their structured approach and clear methods allow you to see things from a new perspective. Rebecca is so easy to talk to and both her and Matt really put you at ease and make you feel comfortable enough to really open up to them. My relationship has a long way to go, but for the first time in a long time, I'm starting to believe we can actually make things work. I really can't recommend them both highly enough

Sucheta Mitra

07/03/2024

We are incredibly grateful for the amazing experience the Relationship Breakthrough program has given us. My husband, and I found ourselves facing some of the toughest challenges life could throw at us - moving to a new country, the loss of loved ones, and navigating tricky dynamics with my in-laws. These struggles had taken a toll on our relationship, and we were teetering on the brink of separation. However, something inside urged us to give it one last shot, to at least understand why things had gotten so difficult between us. From the moment we shared our story with you, we felt heard and understood in a way we hadn't before. The guidance was transformative; through the learning sessions, practical exercises, and one-on-one sessions, we dove deep into our individual traumas and insecurities. Personally, I discovered layers of past hurts and childhood traumas that had unknowingly been affecting my present. Understanding these patterns was like shedding light on years of confusion and pain. But what truly amazed us was how this program wasn't just about fixing our relationship; it was about healing ourselves on an individual level. The sessions were eye-openers, revealing not just the cracks in our partnership but also the strength and resilience within us. Learning to communicate our feelings effectively was a game-changer. We realized that while we couldn't change our circumstances or the people around us, we had the power to change how we reacted to them. The program taught us how to have each other's backs, to navigate conflicts with compassion and understanding. Today, we stand as a stronger, more connected team. Our relationship isn't perfect; we still have disagreements and misunderstandings. But now, armed with the tools and insights from your program, we approach these challenges with confidence and grace. We've learned how to support each other through thick and thin, knowing that together, we can overcome anything. Matt and Rebeca, your program has truly been a lifeline for us. Thank you for your wisdom, your compassion, and your unwavering support. You've helped us breathe new life into our relationship, and for that, we'll be forever grateful.

Matt Brennan

05/03/2024

6 months ago me and my partner was at breaking point, we searched the net for something to try help us work things out and stumbled across aligned with love relationship support and reading all the reviews, after some time talking if it was worth the money what if I doesn’t work and also if it’s real etc we decided to take the risk. All I can say is Matt and Rebecca have been amazing and given us the tools we needed to work through our problems and gave us a chance at a happy ending. If your sat here reading this wondering if it works is it worth it ? I can 100% say it is ! These guy know what they are doing and if you put the effort in you will get the results you are wanting. Thank you Matt and Rebecca for your hard work and patience it’s truly amazing.

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We always speak to clients before embarking on the work because it’s a commitment and frankly not everyone is ready for it. We need to ensure that you are really committed to getting results, as we guarantee that everybody that works with us will get exactly that.

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Using our unique framework, we support you to confront the beliefs and patterns of behaviour that have been keeping you stuck as we run through a series of exercises and questions to enable you to enhance your understanding and to connect on a deeper level.

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Can things really change?

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We can actually have a conversation and a discussion instead of having a full-blown argument. I am a person who is 100% in a better place there. I was down here and now I am way up here as a person and my children are here with me. It’s remarkable.

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Let's look at some of the most common questions to get you started!

How can we possibly help?

How long will I have to wait for my first appointment?

We have availability throughout the week including weekends and evenings. We run until 9pm meaning that the last appointment is usually 8-9pm. In most cases you won't have to wait more than a few days before we can meet. You can see our availability and book here: https://pages.alignedwithlove.net/home-page-2902-1707

What type(s) of therapy do you offer?

We combine a number of different modalities and apply them to your specific needs. Rebeca's background is in hypnotherapy and she is also trained in a number of different healing modalities including coaching, neuro-linguistic programming, EFT and others. Matt's training is in coaching and neuro-linguistic programming and he draws on many years experience working in personal and organisational change. In addition, they have trained extensively in the area of relationships from where they have drawn and developed the methodologies that they use.

How many sessions am I likely to need?

We always start with an initial session so that we can assess to see whether we can support, and to ensure that it's a good fit. Beyond that if we do proceed together we have a defined structure over 6 months with approximately 40 hours work - some of these sessions are together and some are individual. You also have the chance to join our monthly group in-person sessions split by men / women. You can see, it's NOT a quick fix, but for those who are committed we know that it works 100%.

How frequently will I attend?

The first phase is more intensive where we have several longer sessions over a short period of time. Then in the second phase we have three meetings per month over the six months when you are putting things into practice.

Are your sessions online or in-person?

The initial meeting can be either online or in-person. Most of our clients from the south east tend to come to our centre in London, though it may be more convenient to speak via Zoom due to childcare or other issues. Beyond that, it depends on the session and which option you select. In-person sessions are available throughout the process.

What areas do you serve?

We have clients from across the UK, many of which travel here to London to undertake the initial intensive phase of work. We also have lots of clients from the communities closer to our centre in London. We are based in central London close to major transport connections, including the M4, Heathrow Airport, London Underground and London Buses.

Do I always have to attend with my partner?

Some clients work without the involvement of their partner, though if you are joining together there will be some sessions together and some individual throughout the process.